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WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? By Dr. Karyl
From birth through adulthood, the mother-daughter relationship affects the daughter’s emotional development, with the mother serving as her daughter’s primary role model for developing as an individual, lover, wife, mother, and friend. Daughters of narcissistic mothers, however, learn at a very young age that their mother’s love is not unconditional, and the fallout from this painful legacy of distorted love is particularly insidious. The American Psychiatric Association estimates that there are 1.5 million American women with Narcissistic Personality Disorder. In a society that is captivated by social networking sites, celebrity culture, and standing out in the crowd, these numbers do not seem so farfetched. In WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers (Free Press; September 8, 2009; $15.00; paperback), Dr. Karyl McBride – herself a recovering daughter, and a therapist who has devoted almost twenty years to research on narcissistic parents and their effects on children – pulls back the curtain on maternal narcissism, tackling the challenges facing daughters of narcissistic mothers, and claims that this destructive pattern can be overcome. In this pioneering work, WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? Dr. Karyl lays out the characteristics and dynamics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the common symptoms facing daughters of narcissistic mothers, such as over-sensitivity, indecisiveness, self-consciousness, inability to succeed in relationships, lack of self-confidence regardless of their accomplishments, and a general sense of insecurity, and offers tools for readers to use to determine if this disorder indeed affects their families. McBride then highlights how the dynamics of maternal narcissism directly affect daughters’ lives and ultimately provides an easy-to-understand and effective road map for recovery. For daughters of narcissistic mothers, the issue is more complex than just “dealing with mom,” daughters need to know how to read her – when to limit contact and how to set boundaries. These issues not only have ramifications on mother-daughter relationships but can have lasting impacts on how these daughters parent their own children. Daughters always fear passing on the distorted legacy of love, and they want to avoid raising a narcissistic child. These fears also filter themselves into other aspects – in their love relationships, career choices, and everyday thoughts and feelings. In WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? examples of such instances are highlighted as Dr. Karyl recounts her own experiences and tells similarly shocking stories and affecting anecdotes from the hundreds of women she has interviewed and treated over the years. A book that is long overdue, WILL I EVER BE GOOD ENOUGH? gives a voice to the millions of daughters suffering from the abuse of their self-involved, destructive, narcissistic mothers, and provides them with the much-needed tools to overcome the devastating effects of this disorder so they can lead happy, healthy, fulfilled adult lives. About The AuthorDr. Karyl LMFT, is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in Denver, Colorado, with more than twenty-nine years of experience in public and private practice. She specializes in treating clients with dysfunctional family-of-origin issues. For the past seventeen years, Dr. Karyl has been involved in private research concerning children of narcissistic parents, with a primary focus on women raised by narcissistic mothers. She has treated many daughters of narcissistic mothers in her private practice. For more information on Dr. Karyl's psychotherapy practice and specializations see her practice website at www.karylmcbridephd.com |
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