Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Do you see your smile, your shining eyes, the incredible qualities that you bring to your life? Or do you see the “bad” traits? Maybe even the traits that were projected there by someone else. That you are lazy, stupid, too heavy, or maybe even not good enough? How do you feel about the face looking back at you? Do you feel pride? Or do you feel full of shame? Who do you see when you look in that mirror? Is it you? Or is it someone else entirely?
Does any of this sound familiar? Are you wondering if you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist in the past? Was that person your partner? Or maybe even your parent? What happens now that you’re aware of this? How do we get to the point when we can look in the mirror and see ourselves and not the narcissist? How do we recover from perhaps a lifetime of narcissistic, emotional abuse?
Fortunately, there is a resource that addresses all of the above and more. Dr. McBride's five-step recovery model is that resource and it can offer relief from perhaps a lifetime of suffering. Within these five steps reside the pathways that lead to the acceptance of having been raised by a narcissistic parent, the space for the grief and loss for the childhood that didn't exist, healing the wounds that are carried with us, and the idea of choice which include tools to to assist with putting in place boundaries that may shape the kind of relationship you want with your narcissistic parent going forward.
I am honored to be a part of this registry so that I may offer support and guidance to those who want to begin to explore how their lives have been impacted by a narcissistic parent. Beginning the journey of even considering to shift a past belief can evoke fear and I feel privileged to be part of this discovery of the true self.
Often, people find themselves at a crossroads in their lives and are in need of an unbiased person to help them walk through and move forward. I specialize in working with adult children of narcissists, as well as adolescents and adults who struggle with eating disorders, anxiety, and complex trauma. I envision the therapeutic relationship to be that place of authenticity, spontaneity, and of course, healing. Together you and I will work to help your true self once again emerge and continue to walk down the road toward change.
In addition to utilizing the WIEBGE five-step recovery model, I also use the therapeutic modality of Gestalt, which is experimental, existential, and experiential. What I love about Gestalt is that it deals with the Here and Now and can bring tremendous Awareness to those seeking help. Additionally, I concentrate on the embodiment and the somatic aspects of mental health and remain curious about how thoughts and feelings manifest in the body. I’m always searching for creative ways to connect the body and mind--be it through movement, utilizing vocal or acting techniques, or just sitting with self. I've also begun to incorporate parts work and therapeutic writing into some sessions to access other mediums of expression.
I also offer an outpatient group entitled, “Shattering the Mirror: Support and Recovery for Adult Children of Narcissists”. This group meets bi-weekly on Thursdays from 12noon-1:15pm in Philadelphia, PA. Here is the sign/up and additional information link for the group: www.alisastamps.com
I accept private pay and do offer a sliding scale.
Whenever you are ready, I am happy to speak or meet with you to see if working together feels like a good fit.
License and Credentials:
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) #CW020096
Therapist Virtual Workshop: Level I Training