Over the years I have accumulated a number of tools in my “therapeutic tool box.” Dr. McBride’s 5-Step Recovery Model from her book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough, is an extremely valuable tool in dealing with narcissistic relationships. Although originally designed to address the issues of daughters of narcissistic mothers, this perspective is easily adaptable to explore and address issues of daughters and sons of narcissistic mothers and fathers. It is also useful addressing the issues for adult partners of narcissists. One of my specialties is working with adults who find themselves inexplicably drawn to narcissistic adult partners.
Narcissists are master manipulators, able to make it appear that everyone but themselves are responsible for the dysfunction surrounding their lives. This 5-step approach provides an invaluable structure and context to deal with the dynamics of being in a relationship with a narcissist. Without this tool, many of the painful and destructive patterns and effects are missed and therefore go unaddressed and untreated. Many of my clients have related that until they read, Will I Ever Be Good Enough and/or started therapy with me, they thought maybe they were going crazy.
Someone very dear to me once shared, “Every choice we make takes us closer to or further away from where we want to be.” I believe this to be a truth of life. So, my approach to counseling is to help my client clarify where they want to be, and then help them explore the best ways for them to get there. Because insight is critical in the work I do, I generally do not work with young children. Adults, adolescents, couples and families are the people who generally benefit most from the approach I offer.
What is most important for you to know about me is that I will be genuine in our working relationship. Being genuine involves an openness and willingness to share, to be direct and to be honest. I am willing to share the insights and perspectives I have gained through my life experiences (both professional and personal); to share objective feedback; to be honest and share when I don’t know the answer, or there is no “right” answer. I also know that on some level you likely have the insight or solution if you will listen to your inner self. Part of my job in our relationship may be to help you learn how to listen to yourself and others more effectively.
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M.A., L.P.C., C.C.H.
5460 Ward Road, Suite 235
Arvada, CO 80002
34061 Forest Park Drive
Elizabeth, CO 80107
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